Whenever people sat at the dining room table, they could see the cracks in the vase because even though glue was applied, the vase was never the same...the cracks always existed...just like the words spoken to her children, cracking their sense of self, cracking their self-worth. Proverbs 18:21 says, "Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit."
We can obliterate a child's self-worth OR call forth a child's potential, both with our words. Words are powerful. Let's look at the scenario above from a life-giving perspective. Mom hears the vase break and runs into the dining room. Recognizing that she is angry, she takes a moment to compose herself, and then calmly instructs her children to take the ball outside, reminding them of the house rule of no playing ball inside. Mom may decide to apply consequences of extra chores, or perhaps requiring her children to use their own money to replace the vase.
Maintaing a life-giving relational atmosphere keeps the parent-child relationship healthy. Psalm 141:3 is a great scripture to pray, "Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips."
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