Wednesday, November 13, 2013

My Papaw's Wisdom

As a little girl, I was anxious and a worrier. My papaw knew this about me and sent me some words of wisdom. He typed them on his old black typewriter, and I now keep them on my fridge. I loved and adored my papaw. H
e made me feel loved and protected. I thought I would share these words of wisdom with you. If you struggle with anxiety or are a worrier, may these words of wisdom bless and encourge you today!

 
 
 
 
Just for Today
 
 
Just for today - I will live through the next 12 hours and not try to tackle all of life's problems.
 
Just for today - I will improve my mind. I will elarn something useful. I will read something that required effort, thought and concentration.
 
Just for today - I will be agreeable. I will look my best, speak in a well-modulated voice, be courteous and considerate.
 
Just for today - I will not find fault with friend, relative or colleague. I will not try to change or improve anyone but myself.
 
Just for today - I will have a program. I might not follow it, but I will have it. I will save myself from two enemies - hurry and indecision.
 
Just for today - I will do a good turn and keep it a secret. If anyone finds out, it won't count.
 
Just for today - I will do two things I don't want to do, just for the exercise.
 
-Author Unknown
 
Do you have any words of wisdom from your grandparents?
 



Monday, October 28, 2013

Unplugging - Getting Out of Download Mode


 
Do you ever feel that your thoughts are out of control? Do you find it hard to unplug and mentally rest? Do you struggle with laying on the couch and relaxing without feeling guilty? If these questions resonate with you, then perhaps you need to learn the art of uplugging. I am in the process of learning this too. Recently, I entered into a new chapter of my life where one of my life long dreams has become a reality and I am now in full time ministry and loving it! However, my mind stays fully engaged all day. I wake up thinking about ideas and responsibilities and I go to sleep thinking as well. The problem is, I'm having a hard time mentally unplugging. I'm in download mode all the time. In fact, my thought life looks like an electrical transformer on steroids! But I am learning a few strategies that are helping me to unplug. Perhaps they will help you too! Here they are:
  • Reading novels. I recommend the Mitford Series by Jan Karon.
  • Redoing furniture. Working with my hands helps to unwind. Some of my friends like to do crafts. I like to redo furniture.
  • Writing
  • Journaling
  • Exercising
  • Cups of tea and scented candles
  • Bubble baths
  • Watching the DIY channel - love it!
  • Listening to music while working and walking
  • Lunch friends
I'd enjoy hearing how you unplug too!

 

Sunday, September 29, 2013

Led to Lead


Led to Lead

As God continues to call me into positions and roles of leadership, one thing becomes ever so evident:  I cannot lead unless I am led.
 
I may learn all the leadership techniques, be great at developing and duplicating leaders, write and speak about leadership, and even teach others how to be great leaders, but if I am not being led... I cannot lead.

It is necessary that I be led by the ONE great leader, Jesus Christ. I must submit to His authority and His leadership. I need to read His Word and listen to His instruction. For it is by Him and for Him that I lead.

Don’t get me wrong. To be a great leader, reading good leadership books and blogs is important. Going to leadership conferences is beneficial to your longevity as a leader. Having a mentor is crucial to your growth and development. But if you are not being led by Jesus Christ, you cannot lead well.

John 15 reminds us that abiding in Him is the key to bearing fruit. So why do we forget this when it comes to our leadership? Why do we try to do it on our own? Why do we attempt to fix all the problems and set our own agendas? Why do we often make plans and invite Him to join us instead of listening to His plans and joining Him?

Leadership is tricky. Leadership itself denotes authority and power. When we are placed in positions of leadership, we often resort to our fleshly desires to control, to fix everything, and to rule. We can’t help but want to display strength, resolve, and purpose. And all of these characteristics are not inherently wrong, but they can be a catalyst for self-reliance.

So what can we do to make sure we are led leaders?

 
1. Stay in the Word and in His Presence. In addition to having a daily quiet time, we encourage our church staff and leaders to participate in a weekly CRAVE time. Every Thursday at noon we break for an hour and gather and just sit in the presence of the Lord. Accompanied with Scripture and quiet worship music, our goal is to cease striving and abide in Him. This exercise reminds us of the ONE who leads us and gives us His perspective.

2. Seek His agenda first. Observe what He is up to and join Him. Listen to His promptings and follow His lead.

3. Be accountable. Find a mentor or a colleague or even your spouse to hold you accountable. Have them ask you hard questions as to your motives and actions.

4. Lead others to be led. Whether you are in church leadership, lead in your business, or lead as a mom, you have the opportunity and the responsibility to train others that abiding in Christ is the key to Spirit-led leadership. Godly decisions and agendas do not come naturally for us. We must seek God and His wisdom and leadership to be godly spiritual leaders.

Want to be a great leader? Allow yourself to be led to lead by the ONE who created you, called you, loves you, and desires to lead you to lead others.

Living for ONE,

Kelli Wommack

 
 
Kelli is a motivational speaker, writer, and blogger and loves seeing people reach their full potential in Christ. In her role as Director of Leadership Development and Serve Ministries at Christ Community Church in Georgia, she has the awesome privilege of rallying others to find their unique place of ministry and leadership. Her favorite home team includes her loving, funny, yet quiet husband, and her two loving, funny, and not so quiet children. Connect with Kelli:
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Monday, August 12, 2013

Called...Sent...And Everything in Between

Remember The Beatles' song, The Long and Winding Road? Sometimes...no, often, the time between being called by God and the actual sending by Him, can be a long and winding road.

If God called you and it hasn't come to fruition yet, then be encouraged. You are in good company. Abraham, Moses, Noah, and Paul waited a long time between "the call" and being "sent."

While waiting, make sure you do the following:
  • get plugged in to a local church
  • get into relationship with your pastor
  • rest your soul in Him; while you wait, He moves
  • serve, make a difference in the lives of people today.
Finally, hold the dream or call with an open hand. It will look different when you get there but the essence will be the same.


Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. Proverbs 3: 5-6

Saturday, June 22, 2013

Guest Blogger, Krystle K., from www.thesnapmom.com


Hi Everyone!

I'm so excited to have professional blogger, Krystle K, from www.thesnapmom.com,  guest blogging as part of my series, Life-Giving Parenting. Make sure to check out her site. Enjoy her post!

As a mother of two under two, I definitely feel as though I'm knee deep in the trenches of parenthood but I also know that 2 years is hardly scratching the surface of what a lifetime of motherhood is going to teach me. It gets me choked up thinking about it. I cannot even fathom my two little ones being adults and mothers themselves one day.
I'm honored that Julia would consider me a candidate to share on life-giving parenting and want to make this as helpful and to the point as possible because you mamas don't have all day for me to ramble.
Here are my 3 steps to life-giving parenting:
1-Thoughts
2- Words
3-Actions

Thoughts:
The Bible says in 1 Thessalonians 5:7 says to "pray without ceasing" and I believe we cannot be life-giving if we are not connecting ourselves to The Life Giver.
Long before my children were born. I prayed for them daily and also sought the Lord for a "life-verse" for each of them. This verse I pray specifically over them daily. I view it as speaking their futures into existence & claiming God's best for their lives. Through-ought the day I am praying and asking for God to give me the "fruits of the spirit" found in Galatians 5:22 "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control." These are, I believe, are crucial in have a life-giving mentality in parenting.
Words:
We all know that the tongue has the power of life and death. I focus on speaking truth and love over my daughters. I choose to not focus on their faults and short comings but call out the good I see in them and also speaking into existence what caring, loving, able, giving, capable, talented and terrific people they will be. It breaks my heart when people call their children names like "brat" or "naughty" because children absorbs the words we speak over them.
Actions:
This is the hardest part. Walking the walk.
Our children see us in our rawest form.
The unfiltered concentrated you.
In order to be life-giving parents we must be life-giving people. Our children will mirror our actions much faster than our words. The most important thing you do as a parent falls within the 4 walls of your house. How you treat your spouse and those in your life will be the ultimate "life-giving" example to your children.

Krystle K
Krystle K is a professional blogger for www.thesnapmom.com & lives in Sarasaota, FL with her husband and 2 daughters.

 
 
 
 
 

Sunday, May 19, 2013

Post II in the Series on Life-Giving Parenting

Shimmering light played on the hand blown glass tinted with blue.The vase was exquisite. As a family heirloom, it was placed prominently on the dining room table. Bouncing, running, squeals of laughter came from the family room. A ball hit the vase knocking it to the ground, exploding into a million pieces. In the kitchen, mom heard the sound and instinctively knew that her prized vase was broken. Immediately, degrading words of anger began spilling from her lips, calling her children names that defiled their very being. They had heard these words before. Her children ran from her as she knelt down and picked up the pieces. Hours later, the gluing was finished. She placed the repaired vase back in its place of prominence.
     Whenever people sat at the dining room table, they could see the cracks in the vase because even though glue was applied, the vase was never the same...the cracks always existed...just like the words spoken to her children, cracking their sense of self, cracking their self-worth. Proverbs 18:21 says, "Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit."
     We can obliterate a child's self-worth OR call forth a child's potential, both with our words. Words are powerful. Let's look at the scenario above from a life-giving perspective. Mom hears the vase break and runs into the dining room. Recognizing that she is angry, she takes a moment to compose herself, and then calmly instructs her children to take the ball outside, reminding them of the house rule of  no playing ball inside. Mom may decide to apply consequences of extra chores, or perhaps requiring her children to use their own money to replace the vase.
      Maintaing a life-giving relational atmosphere keeps the parent-child relationship healthy. Psalm 141:3 is a great scripture to pray, "Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips."

Thanks for reading! Blessings!

Julia












Sunday, May 5, 2013

Series: How to Have Life-Giving, Thriving Family Relationships

Life-Giving Family Relationships


     After 10 years as a therapist working with families, marriages, and individuals, I am convinced that creating a healthy family begins with a life-giving relational atmosphere. I define a life-giving relational atmosphere as a grace-filled, loving, affirming family environment filled with traditions and routines that create a rhythm to a child's life. Here is a great strategy to implement into your family's daily routine that will strengthen your bond with your child, creating a healthy relational atmosphere.
      The strategy is called floor time. I recommend starting this with your child as young as possible. Every day, for at least 30 minutes, enter into your child's world by getting down on the floor and playing. For example, our oldest son, Joseph, was obessessed with tractors. He knew every model of every tractor known to mankind - or at least it seemed that way! Each day, we would play with tractors, read books on tractors, and we took field trips to see tractors. 
     Your child may be interested in dinosaurs, dolls, certain books, trains, puzzles, or insects. It doesn't matter what it is, it just matters that you enter into their world by playing. The benefit of floor time is immense. The message it sends to your child is, I love you, you are important to me. Floor time is NOT the time to discipline or instruct your child. In fact, the more you invest time in your relationship with your child by doing this one simple strategy, the less likely your child will act out and misbehave. Be intentional. Take time. Invest in your child and enjoy loving family relationships!
    











Monday, April 8, 2013

Human Trafficking: Little but Fierce!


     Sitting perched on a high top stool in Starbucks, sat this petite powerhouse named AC Black. Her personality reminded me of the Shakespearean quote, “Though she be but little, she is fierce.” And fierce describes her to a tee. At 22, AC and her ministry partner, Jane Anderson, have founded the nonprofit, I AM MORE THAN.  Its purpose is to restore hope, freedom and faith to sexually abused and human trafficked teen girls in Kampala, Uganda.
       AC's mission is to restore worth back to girls and women broken by sexual assualt and/or human trafficking. Her world was rocked at the age of 15 when she made Jesus Christ her Lord and Savior. She began preaching at 16, bringing 50 high school girls to Christ.  After spending time in a school of ministry called 24/7, she learned all aspects of serving in the local church but her heart beat for something beyond the walls of a church…the land of Africa. And after a stint in Australia she found herself in Uganda where AIDS is rampant and orphans abound.  With her love for Uganda and her desire to see victims of sexual abuse rescued, I AM MORE THAN, was birthed. The nonprofit exists to provide a safe haven for girls ages 11-18 who have been rescued out of sex trafficking or have suffered from sexual abuse.  The girls can stay up to three years, receiving trauma counseling, mental health counseling and group counseling.  The nonprofit also exists to provide community education and awareness about the horrendous abuse Ugandan girls suffer at the hands of traffickers.
     If you want to receive more info on I AM MORE THAN or if you want to donate to this worthy cause, please contact AC at www.iammorethan.com.

Friday, March 15, 2013

Life-Giving LeadHERship: Stop Digging Your Own Well

A packed calendar with no margin left in my schedule, had become the norm more than the exception. Every time a new opportunity came my way, I was determined to "make it happen." Compelled to keep all my plates simultaneously spinning in the air, I over extended myself spiritually, physically, and emotionally. Every time a new project, opportunity or idea came my way, I would pick up my shovel and begin to dig - to make it happen. I needed a break. I had been digging my own wells too long. It's funny how I can analyze someone's else's life but when it comes to fixing my own, I can be a bit slow.

The apple klunked me on the head as I was reading Jeremiah 2:13: "My people have committed two sins: They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water." I realized I was digging my own cisterns instead of following the Holy Spirit; letting Him lead me; letting Him make it happen.

Here's a few tips on how I stopped digging my own cisterns:

1. Daily, I surrender my ideas, projects and dreams before the Lord.
2. Daily, I ask Him to lead me and direct me to what He has for me....not what I want for myself.
3. Daily, I spend time worshipping and reading His Word.
4. I take a sabbath every Sunday. I stop everything and rest my body and my mind.

What about you? Are you digging your wells?

Saturday, March 2, 2013

Life-Giving LeadHERship Tip - Quit It! Quit Stuffing Your Emotions!


    How does a life-giving woman manage her emotions? Does God even care about this area of a woman’s life? He absolutely cares about this area of your life. The Bible says that your finances and health will prosper as your soul prospers (3 John 1:2). Remember, that your soul is made up of your mind (thoughts), will, and emotions. So, if your soul is prospering than everything else will prosper too. The internal world of the soul impacts your external world. For example, if I am struggling with anger, anxiety or frustration, I am much more likely to yell at my kids, or be impatient with the store clerk. 
   As a therapist and women’s ministry leader, I know the importance of keeping your emotional world healthy. The key to managing your emotions is to acknowledge your real emotions. Many Christian women consider it a sin to feel emotions such as anger, sadness, disappointment, discouragement, and fear. Often, women will stuff these emotions for fear of being condemned because of their lack of faith.
   The problem with stuffing emotions is that depression, criticalness, and bitterness will surface and override life-giving joy and love. In order to keep your internal world healthy, it is imperative to have safe people in your life that you can openly and honestly share your feelings. You want to choose wise people who will not let you sit in your negative emotions but will spur you on and forward; people who will give you a hand out of your emotional pit, and not get down in the pit with you and have an emotional pity party.