Sunday, June 17, 2012

No Pit So Deep That Jesus Isn't Deeper Still

"There is no pit that Jesus isn't deeper still."  Betsy TenBoom

Ascending the bridge, we noticed flashing lights at the highest point. The search and rescue helicopter hoovered overhead, and the coast guard boat was circling in the water . As we drove closer to the flashing lights, we saw two police cars guarding an empty car. The license plate was covered with paper to keep passing drivers from investigating the identity of the jumper. Hopelessness, the beast of the soul,had claimed another victim.

 Hopelessness causes despair and depression and is rooted in disappointment brought on by loss of a dream, a job, a relationship. Physiological depression can also cause depression.  Research indicates that women feel depression at much higher levels than most males but because females are more verbal and more connected relationally we are able to work through our feelings. Whereas, men withhold their emotional pain and suicide rates are higher in men than women.

Depression is common for women at certain periods in her life: after childbirth, during menopause, major life changes.  If you find yourself feeling hopeless and depressed, reach out to your friends, loved ones, your church, or counselors. Don't let depression rob you of the abundant life that God has for you. Get connected in life-giving, healthy relationships with other women. Small groups are a great way to connect, to feel apart of a community of believers, and to grow in the knowledge and grace of His love. He loves you so.  Remember, there is no pit so deep that Jesus isn't deeper still.

Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Life-Giving Marriage: The Power of My Words

While at a marriage encounter, I was reminded of the power my words have in the life of my husband. Proverbs 18: 21 says, "Death and life are in the power of the tongue." I have the power to build him up or tear him down. When my husband, Mark, does something that I don't agree with, I have the choice to criticize and lash out with unkind and cruel words or calmly and respectfully discuss the issue. I have done both. And sadly, I have hurt my husband with unkind words just to make a point or to prove I was right. But, over the years I have learned that my love for him is greater than getting my point across. When chosen carefully, my words can turn a situation around; turn what could be an argument into a sweet moment. He trusts me with his heart, his dreams, his insecurities and his strengths. I need to cherish him like the priceless gift that he is...and cherish him with my words.